Will Narcan Further Enable Addicts?

An addict is going to use no matter what. They have no willpower when it comes to whether or not they use that needle, smoking the crushed substance, or snorting the substance. None of it matters to them. All they ever care about is getting that next fix.

So for those of you out there that believe by having so much Narcan readily available, it’s going to enable our addicts, stop there. It will not increase the desire to use. If you believe that Narcan is an enabler and will keep them using, then you know nothing, nothing at all about addicts. Yes, it will enable them. It will allow them to remain alive. Yes, they will use again, but not for the same reason you believe. They are going to use because they feel they have to use. No one has shown them how to remain clean. Addicts don’t think about life or death. They don’t think period.

Those that have been to rehab, they will have learned tools to help manage their addictions. They too will not think about the consequences of using, not all the time. When they relapse, they relapse. They relapse for the sake of having forgotten why they stopped using in the first place. It has nothing to do with whether or not they will live or die. That thought never, or almost never crosses their mind.

 

Bottom Line – Addicts Don’t Care Whether They Live or Die

English: Three drug addicts seen smoking a hug...
English: Three drug addicts seen smoking a huge amount of crack cocaine, in a downtown eastside alley, in Vancouver BC Canada. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Rehabs should not be run by people who don’t understand addiction!

Ordinary people don’t get it. They don’t understand. They’ve never been there, at the bottom. Only addicts know how to help other users return from the bottom. They know what it’s like to fall, to get to the bottom and feel there is no return. Addicts know the fears of drug abusers. It’s not death.

That’s why it is so important to have rehabs run by responsible addicts. Only by those who have been in recovery for a given amount of time. They are the only ones who know the way to recovery.

Through experiences that they share, they teach strength and understanding. The things they’ve gone through, the stuff they’ve done, they’ve done it all. They know the tricks addicts have used to hide their problems with addiction. They know how users will try to play the system. Addicts are masters of deception. It takes one to know one.

A long term rehab becomes a community. The larger the population of recovered addicts, the stronger the support system to those in recovery. Being part of a community satisfies the need to belong to something. All users feel like outcasts. The stigma associated with addiction has made this more pronounced over the years.

Before New Hampshire closed the long-term rehab that my son had belonged to, he was happier than when he’d been using. He had support. There were people he could call when he needed to talk to someone who understood what he was going through. But, by closing that program sent an ominous message to the recovering addicts. The message said, “No one cares.”

If no one cares about a recovered addict, then who is going to care about the addict who needs to be in recovery? This message collapsed a fragile community. No wonder so many of our addicts have been dying from an overdose.

It takes years to build such a community and only minutes to collapse it.

The only way to cure addiction is to learn to make a stronger network of recovered addicts. Until then our addicts will continue to use and die.

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Secret Worlds Exist Inside Everyone

English: Neil Gaiman, signing books after a re...
English: Neil Gaiman, signing books after a reading from “Anansi Boys” in Berkeley, 2005. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Everybody has a secret world inside of them. I mean everybody. All of the people in the whole world, I mean everybody — no matter how dull and boring they are on the outside. Inside them they’ve all got unimaginable, magnificent, wonderful, stupid, amazing worlds… Not just one world. Hundreds of them. Thousands, maybe.”
Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 5: A Game of You

I have met so many people who can’t fathom how a person could spend so much time writing a book. Others believe it is a natural thing to do until they give it a try. Most likely, they forgot how hard it was to write that essay or short story back in elementary school. Back then, it was a feat to be able to write a 150-word short story for the Halloween contest.

Neil Gaiman is right. I do believe everyone does have at least one story to tell in their lifetime. It doesn’t matter whether it is a fictional story or a memoir. It’s still a story. Some of those real stories are the best ones to tell. Take for instance a drug addict. They each have a story not only to tell but needs to share. This is one of the ways they work toward their recovery. They build a bridge to the next person who needs help by sharing how they know what it’s like to be in such a predicament.

Their stories bring hope. That hope gives others another chance at life. Just the thought of knowing that they are not alone in such a big world that has been filled with craziness that they’ve experienced helps. Not only does these stories help the addicts, but they can also help bring hope and recovery to the families and friends of the addicts. They learn that their loved ones are still human, after all the ugliness they’ve gone through.

So don’t ever let someone tell you that you don’t have a story to tell. Your life is a story and no one can tell it as you can.

Help save a life, reach out and make that bridge by telling your life story. It has more meaning than you could imagine.

 

Who am I? #zerotohero

My Name is Linda Nelson, and I am a YA Writer. Well, that is my main focus, but I have written a fantasy series too that is kind of geared toward YA readers.

I’m not quite sure why I chose to write for YA except that my Contemporary series was written for my children. Even though they are now young adults and I am a Grandma, I still see them as my teens. Maybe, because of the trouble they put me through while they were in their teens, I’m not sure.

Wings from Ashes series started when my daughter was 18 and left home unexpectedly. Then my son introduced himself back into my life. He is my addict.

For some people, it is hard for them to talk about having a family member that is an addict. I have found that by speaking about it, I have been able to move forward in my life and allow him to grow too. He was the catalysis for writing Road Salt. If he hadn’t pitched my first book, Friends of Choice, to his counselor then I would never have considered writing another contemporary to follow it up. She asked me whether I was going to write another and two months later I was pitching my idea of Road Salt to her, and she loved the idea.

Addicts will always be addicts no matter what. When they are in recovery, it is a way of prolonging their life. Once you accept their eminent death sentence they have given to themselves, it becomes easier to let them go so the addict can grow. There are things you can do to help allow yourself to continue having a healthy relationship with them. But if you allow them to step past your boundaries then you are in a bad place. Never ever let your guard down. They may seem upstanding, healthy and clean, but their minds will take years of reprogramming before the trust you gave them when they were five can ever be given again. It is rough.

I know of mothers who have lost their children to drug overdoses. I see and hear their pain. I know in my own heart, this will be a difficult stage to face. Cutting the umbilical cord is hard, especially that one that was created when we bonded with our babies when they were born. That emotional umbilical cord must be cut if we are to survive once they succumb to their coming fate. If we are lucky, we will have passed before they have.

Not all addicts lose their battle. Some have gone on to live fulfilling lives and remain clean for years. Some of them have become the counselors who help treat other addicts in hopes to pass their knowledge on to another. This leads me to the reason why I wrote Along Came Neil and ended the series as a trilogy with this particular book.

Everyone deserves a happy ending, and that is what Along Came Neil has. It is the number one element to writing a romance. This is a book about hope, regaining trust, self-discipline and positive reinforcement.

So if you are an addict, have an addict family member or friend, I would love to hear from you.

It is helpful to hear success stories of recovery to keep the hope alive.

Everyone needs hope.

Did you lose a loved one from Substance Abuse? I would love to hear from you too. How are you coping with your loss?

And last but not least; addicts, we love hearing how long you have been clean. Every day that goes by that you have remained clean is hope for someone’s mother.