If We Were Having Coffee I’d Tell You About Surviving Christmas and 2016

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How many times have I said I will start Christmas shopping in July?

 

The last-minute shopping panic is over, I’m so glad life can return to normal even though time is limited due to school work. I have one year and six months left to finish school, or three plus if I continue on to a Master’s Degree. For the past six months, I have been sticking my nose in a textbook every night, pushing myself to learn topics that I don’t really enjoy. Math was never my favorite subject, that means Finance, Accounting, and anything that requires equations including economics must be learned by use of strict discipline. Those A’s and B’s I have gotten in any of those classes were more than earned. I worked hard, very hard, for those grades.

Maybe the worst classes are almost over for the time being. – sigh –

 

What’s in store for 2017 Classes?

 

Microsoft Office 2013 – I am really looking forward to the next term, almost to the point of excitement. For the past six years, I’ve been playing with Office on my own, stumbling around the software while learning how to format eBooks and print books for publishing. Imagine what I could do if I learned to master the software?

My other class for the next term is Science I. I liked science in high school. Physics and Biology were my strengths. Chemistry falls into the same category as math, with massive distaste. Give me finance over chemistry any day.

 

Term 4 will give me a second round in Science II. Microeconomics is my other course. Hopefully, I will enjoy the business element of economics over the world element.

 

Summer I will prove to be interesting with America’s Themes and Dreams and Marketing. Maybe by the time I get to the Marketing class, I will be ready to release a new book. I have several works in progress at this stage.

 

So far, 2017 is looking to be an exciting year.

 

Summer 2 may start to shape and change my future career with Human Resource Management and Sociology. With one term left to complete to fulfill what is needed to complete an Associate Degree in Business. The rest of the year will build on my Bachelor’s Degree.

All these classes and working full time does not leave me much time for writing nor doing the things that I love doing. At the same time, I am following the dream of acquiring a degree which I have wanted to do for the past thirty years. I can only imagine where I would be today if I had started on my career earlier in life.

If it hadn’t been for Mike making that call to my high school that day to inquire about getting my transcript, I might have continued to put my education off.

 

I expect to have a Bachelor’s Degree by the time I am 55 years old. (Probably before that age).

2016 was an eventful year. It is true, when a door closes, a window of opportunity opens. You just need to learn to find those windows in the places you least expect to find them located.

 

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“If we were having coffee…”? – #weekendcoffeeshare

English: A photo of a cup of coffee. Esperanto...
English: A photo of a cup of coffee. Esperanto: Taso de kafo. Français : Photo d’une tasse de caffé Español: Taza de café (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’d tell you why such a glum face.

I’m one of those writers who needs to keep a full-time day job besides writing. It is how I connect to the world. Interacting with people is what keeps me going. It is where I can come up with new ideas. Inspiration comes from the daily interaction with co-workers.

So why so glum, you ask?

For the past few weeks, I was part of a workforce reduction. That’s right. I was displaced and left to scour the internet in search of a new day job. It’s not so easy to do these days, that is unless you have some sort of degree.

Last week, out of frustration, I applied to go back to school to get that needed degree. I should hear back within the coming weeks. It does look promising. I also got my job back – pfff – as a Temp, that is.

I used to believe that companies would reward their workers for loyalty and good work ethics. I guess that isn’t the case anymore. Or at least, at this company. I know, you ask, why go back to them? I had no choice. I need the job and the interaction if I’m going to write.

“I’ll be that one person who continues to work until the day they die.” – Linda Nelson

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Congregation of Flakes

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Congregation of Flakes

by Linda Nelson

Blowing on the wind

Adrift falling in the sky

Floating endlessly to the ground

An upsweeping wind

Captures the drifting flake

Pulling it up higher

To fall once again

Through tree tops

Past bird nests empty for the winter

Bumping against dried brown leaves

With arches and points

One last gust of wind

Blows the floating, drifting flake

Against a boulder covered

In the fellow congregation of flakes

My Suspicions of Tyrion Lannister – Who Could He Really Be?

At the moment, I’m halfway through reading Game of Thrones: A Feast of Crows – Book 4 by GRRM. This series is so complex; it rattles my brain as to how George Martin was able to put together such a fabulous story.

I do have theories of who is whom and what they mean to the story. The following video does have spoilers. So if you haven’t read the books up to book 5, then expect spoilers. Almost everyone I know likes to jump ahead of an excellent book to see if they can get a glimpse as to which way the story is going to take them. Will this character do this or will their wishes be fulfilled?

Game of Thrones is not only a fantasy; it’s riddled with mysteries. Like who is Jon Snow’s parents? Is Arya ever going to find peace? What is the importance of Bran and the three eyed crow? Then, there is Tyrion. He is one of my favorite characters of the book. When I stumbled across this video on YouTube, I had to agree with the narrator on this theory.

Warning: Spoilers for those who haven’t read the books or watched the HBO Series- These spoilers will take you all the way to book 5 – so that you know.

This is the video about Jon Snow – Spoilers too!

What do you believe, a Lannister or Targaryen?
I don’t think Cersei and Jamie could be Targaryen. They, especially Cersei are want to be’s chasing a dream. Neither have beliefs in Dragons or understand any of the magic that exists beyond the wall. Only Tyrion believes in magic and seeks more answers by reading book after book after book.

Knowing You’re Not Alone

Just when the chicks fly from the nest, there’s always that one that comes back home to roost. That one would be my son. He’s been living at home for the past three years. Maybe someday he’ll find a girl and make his own roost.

That’s right, I thought I was an empty nester several years ago, then the recession hit and he was in trouble. After spending a year in a residential rehab, he came home to live with us. He hadn’t lived with me since he was twelve. Those in-between years were spent living in his father’s house. I can’t say that had anything to do with his getting into trouble or needing to go to rehab. Nowadays, they would say, it happens, no matter what.

For those of you who have stumbled across my blog for the very first time, my name is Linda. I’ve been writing and blogging since 2008. I got my start at blogging on MySpace, that was back when MySpace was a space for everyone, not just music lovers.

When they changed the site, I had to go somewhere else. I think that was about the same time that WordPress started up. Though I didn’t quite know what I was doing when I first started out. The only thing I knew was that I needed to write and share my experiences with other parents of addicts.

There I said it. I’m a mother of an addict. That is the hardest thing a parent has to admit. From here on out, once the status is accepted, it gets easier to talk about to other people. I think when you learn that you’re not alone in the world, by being a parent of an addict, you get over the stigma. This is one of the most important steps in the recovery process. When our addict can’t embarrass us anymore, we can grow stronger by leaps and bounds.

If you don’t have an addict in your life, then you’re lucky. They don’t have to be family either. The person only needs to be within your daily life Circle to qualify as having them in your life. Once they are in your circle, the drama and chaos are there. Then you only need to arm yourself with a decision to either cut them out of your life or grow stronger. Which will it be?

I chose to grow stronger. I may have let go of some things in my life to allow him to stay. Things like behaviors and attitudes can make a world of difference. Only you can decide what you need to let go of to make the necessary adjustment. Like the need to have expensive things. Are you afraid of them selling your items? How about stealing cash? Do you still keep cash on hand?

Those were the first few things I let go of. I don’t keep them so I can’t lose them. I only have what I need and learned to accept that it is enough. I learned to make myself happy and not wait on other people to comfort me. By putting my well being first, I hadn’t been disappointed, especially when I lowered my expectations of others, and kept my expectations of self in check. We tend to be the hardest on ourselves. Learn to say – Good enough. If it isn’t, you can always go and try again to make improvements.

Every year I try to make improvements to myself. Once again, I’m working on my blogging skills. I hope you will follow me through the year as I plunge through 2016. We can talk about our addicts, or what it’s like to be a parent of an addict. If you’re a writer that writes Young Adult or New Adult, we can talk about topics that are relevant to the development of our youth. I don’t know it all, your input would be greatly appreciated. Sometimes I feel out of touch with today’s youth now that my daughter left home and has a daughter of her own.

Did you lose a loved one to addiction? I would love to hear your story. If you don’t want to keep a blog, you can send me your article to post and share with others. Sharing helps us heal.

I’m hoping to keep my posts flowing throughout the year. I do hit dead zones from time to time. I think we all do. It is high time that I publish another book too, which I will as soon as I finish refilling my well. My Orgarlan Saga is starting to bubble. It is only a matter of time before I have to spill the words across the white screen for the next and most likely last book of the series. I want to move toward stand-alone stories. Maybe continue a series with stand alone, I’m not sure. There will be another contemporary story too. It is only a matter of when.

I’m probably as shy as you are, so there is no need to worry about what you post. I’d be happy with a simple hello. Maybe we will get acquainted. It is such a good feeling knowing you’re not alone in a world filled with addiction.

 

 

If We Were Having Coffee Right Now…I would mention

English: A photo of a cup of coffee. Esperanto...
English: A photo of a cup of coffee. Esperanto: Taso de kafo. Français : Photo d’une tasse de caffé Español: Taza de café (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If we were having coffee right now… I would tell you how much I hate being sick. I thought I was doing the right thing by getting the flu shot like I’ve done for the past six or seven years. Once again, I got sick within a day or two after getting the shot. You can keep telling me all you want about how there is no way a person can get the flu from the shot. I’m beginning to believe otherwise. Not only did I get sick, but my mother got sick too. She received her flu shot the day after I got mine and we both became ill together. We got the runny nose, post nasal drip, the bad cough, and couldn’t stay awake when we weren’t coughing up a storm. My chest hurt for two days. I even missed 2 days of work. I hate missing work.

 

English: Wild apple tree Deutsch: Wilder Apfelbaum
English: Wild apple tree Deutsch: Wilder Apfelbaum (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If we were having coffee right now… I would complain about it getting cold outside. I know it officially is fall, but couldn’t summer last just a bit longer? I really didn’t mind the hot weather we were having. At least we finally got some much-needed rain. My apple tree was glowing. I saw it hiccuping green leaves into the air. Maybe next year we’ll finally get a decent crop of apples.

 

If we were having coffee right now… I would tell you how much I don’t like politics. Yes, I vote, but I won’t discuss the political matters at hand. I won’t even get started on gun issues. I get it, but I won’t go there. I now turn off the news when there is a debate or a mass shooting. I can’t control either of these except I can choose to listen or not.

This book was previously titled “Friends of Choice.”
[/media-credit] This book was previously titled “Friends of Choice.”

If we were having coffee right now… I would mention to you about my book, What Karla Wants, is free on Google Play. This book has been tweaked, edited, and recompiled to the point that there isn’t anything left to do to it to make it any better. I have to accept it as it is. I think I made a lot of changes to it in the past year. You may not even recognize it. The overall storyline is still the same, but like I said, it’s been tweaked. I like how it came out. I even like the new title. I had to rename it, I knew the readers were right about how the title wasn’t good enough. If you haven’t read the book, now is your chance.

Filet crochet
Filet crochet (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If we were having coffee right now… I would tell you about how close I am to finishing up that Barbie Bed Doll I’ve been working on since June. I started crocheting it right after having my surgery. I needed something light to keep my hands busy while I was recuperating. The doll is made with #10 crochet cotton. That’s the fine thread that is sometimes used to make doilies, tablecloths, and runners, or lacing. It usually takes me about 2 or 3 months to complete a doll. When I’m done with this project, I will finish up an afghan I was working on before I had to operation. After that, I’ve got a quilt to work on during the winter months. I’ll be nice and warm under it.

If You and I Were Having Coffee – I would

English: A photo of a cup of coffee. Esperanto...
English: A photo of a cup of coffee. Esperanto: Taso de kafo. Français : Photo d’une tasse de caffé Español: Taza de café (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If we were having coffee right now… I would tell you that I’m back on a sewing machine at work. Yes, I do have a day job like the average American. I don’t stay home and write all day. I’m not sure if I would want to leave my day job. I like my co-workers. Where else would I come up with ideas for plot lines? Those gals help me. They brainstorm, beta read, and cheer each story on after I publish it. I guess some writers would envy my work and writing relationship. One of the things I decided right off the bat when I started writing, I would make sure that I treated my day job the same way I treat my writing. Seriously, I care about what I do, and I let my co-workers know that too. I’m not the type of person who goes to work just for the paycheck. If you’re a writer and working a daytime job, take pride in that job. You will be surprised how much help it is to have a positive attitude at work. Believe me, the higher-ups notice. It’s an image you not only want to portray but keep.

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Singer sewing machine – 31K32 (detail 1) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If we were having coffee right now… I would tell you I went to the doctor’s the other day for a check up. She said my A1C is coming down, but not down enough. I’m to continue doing what I’ve already done, but I also have to focus on losing some more weight. Bah- I’m tired of doctors. I feel healthy and happy, why do I need to keep going back. We’ll see if I return in six months. At least she never needed to put me on any insulin medication.

Gracie recently departed at the age of 19. She lived a great life.
[/media-credit] Gracie recently departed at the age of 19. She lived a great life.
If we were having coffee right now… I would have to tell you about the pup, Keelaa. She ran down the driveway today, and across the street. Little bugger! Now she’s grounded. We think she saw a black and white cat that looked like her deceased friend, Gracie. Every time she sees this black and white cat, she starts barking like mad, it’s as though she were trying to call the cat to come home. Poor pup doesn’t know that we had no choice but to put Gracie down. She was almost 20 years old and having serious health problems.

English: George R.R. Martin signing books in a...
English: George R.R. Martin signing books in a bookstore in Ljubljana, Slovenia. Slovenščina: George R.R. Martin med podpisovanjem knjig v ljubljanski knjigarni. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

If we were having coffee right now… I would tell you about the book I’m reading. It’s the fourth book in the Game of Thrones. I won’t tell you any spoilers. But, what I will tell you, is that I love the way GRRM writes. I like how he builds his characters, settings, and plots. After this book, there is one more. He has a sixth book coming out. I just don’t know when its release date is. When I hear, I’ll let you all know.

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prevention an aid against drug addiction Deutsch: Kampf dem Drogenmissbrauch :*Ausgabepreis: 40 Pfennig :*First Day of Issue / Erstausgabetag: 14. August 1975 :*Michel-Katalog-Nr: 864 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

If we were having coffee right now… I would tell you that I’m a Walking Dead fan. They say that the new spin-off, Fear the Walking Dead is slipping in ratings. I think this could be associated with the fact that there is active drug addiction being portrayed in this story hitting too close to home for many folks. It can even, unknowingly, trigger addicts to begin using. There should be a word of caution at the beginning of episodes, warning about the subject of drug addiction. Triggers are real, and there are too many people suffering addiction to ignore involuntary triggers on TV.

 

Oh, I got to go… I think we’ll meet again for another coffee session.