— Jamie Hoang (@HeyJamie) July 23, 2016
“Everybody has a secret world inside of them. I mean everybody. All of the people in the whole world, I mean everybody — no matter how dull and boring they are on the outside. Inside them they’ve all got unimaginable, magnificent, wonderful, stupid, amazing worlds… Not just one world. Hundreds of them. Thousands, maybe.”
― Neil Gaiman,
I have met so many people who can’t fathom how a person could spend so much time writing a book. Others believe it is a natural thing to do until they give it a try. Most likely, they forgot how hard it was to write that essay or short story back in elementary school. Back then, it was a feat to be able to write a 150-word short story for the Halloween contest.
Neil Gaiman is right. I do believe everyone does have at least one story to tell in their lifetime. It doesn’t matter whether it is a fictional story or a memoir. It’s still a story. Some of those real stories are the best ones to tell. Take for instance a drug addict. They each have a story not only to tell but needs to share. This is one of the ways they work toward their recovery. They build a bridge to the next person who needs help by sharing how they know what it’s like to be in such a predicament.
Their stories bring hope. That hope gives others another chance at life. Just the thought of knowing that they are not alone in such a big world that has been filled with craziness that they’ve experienced helps. Not only does these stories help the addicts, but they can also help bring hope and recovery to the families and friends of the addicts. They learn that their loved ones are still human, after all the ugliness they’ve gone through.
So don’t ever let someone tell you that you don’t have a story to tell. Your life is a story and no one can tell it as you can.
Help save a life, reach out and make that bridge by telling your life story. It has more meaning than you could imagine.
— Andreea- DailyFitHit (@dailyfithit) September 10, 2015
It doesn’t matter what you’re trying to do, but if you want it bad enough, you’ll find a way to acquire it. A drug addict will always find a way to get that next fix. An alcoholic will find a way to get that next drink. Same goes for the smoker. I know, I quit smoking ten years ago cold turkey. I did this by eliminating one cigarette a day each week until I was down to one a day. That was when I wondered why I was even bothering to light one up.
I think there has to be a need to have a want. You can want something, but that doesn’t always guarantee that you’re going to get it. But if the need is stronger than the want, it acts like magic. – Maybe it is Magic!
Same goes for writing. There’s writer’s block, I do know that, but then there’s the other writer’s block from lack of motivation. I think the lack of motivation is a form of lack of confidence. When we write every day and put our words out for others to read, that’s how our confidence begins to build. It’s one of the main reasons why I believe all writers should blog at least once a week.
You say you’re on Social Media. That’s fine, but are you afraid of your writing being read by millions of people? The thought of this does make me a bit squeamish at times. You’re center stage and the spotlight is on you when someone not only buys your book but reads it. This is when your left wondering, did they like it?
Blogging can help overcome this feeling and build your confidence. You won’t get a lot of readers right off the bat. I think this can be a bonus. A blog can be your playground. You can use it to try new ways of writing. Play with writing prompts and see where they take you. Use it for a writing journal and make friends in the process.
It’s not always about trying to attract new readers. They will appear as your skill with writing grows stronger. You’ll lose your awkwardness with words and become less – let’s say – shy – would be the word.
I’m one of those quiet types. I try to listen to those around me and learn. As I get to know a person better, I become more comfortable with them and begin to interact more.
Writing is the same too. The more you are comfortable doing what you’re doing, the more likely you will do it every day.
I’ve been blogging much more since I moved my site. I feel the need since I am paying for this service; I’d better be using it. At work, I’ve found myself interacting with my co-workers more too. So the confidence level is growing not only in my writing but also in my ability to communicate with other individuals.
The point is, I wanted to write more and found a way to motivate myself to do so. I may not be working on my work in progress at this time, but I am writing, none the less. My goal by the end of the month is to be writing a post every day. Maybe my next post will lead me to a brainstorming session or an ah-ha moment, and I’ll come up with the next event of my story. I do have a lot of plot holes to get rid of, it’s going to need a lot of work. For now, I’ll use my post to keep me motivated and fuel my need to write because I want to finish this manuscript.
In 2013, I released my first sweet contemporary romance, Along Came Neil. I never had given thought to write a romance story before this book came about. I had published it just in time for Christmas. This book not only was my first romance, but it also brought my first happy ending.
I know, everyone loves happy endings. I do too. It’s a shame that life isn’t full of more happy endings. I’ve seen my share of horrible times like everyone else. Sometimes we forget that happy endings do exist, we just need to know what makes us happy before we find it.
After I wrote this book and fell in love with happy endings, I vowed to write all my books with happy endings. I also now write stand-alone series. So if you haven’t read the first book in this series, don’t worry about that. The story picks up where those other two books left off, but I don’t think you will be utterly lost without them.
“Be who you are, and say what you feel. Because those who matter don’t mind, and those that mind don’t matter. ” – Dr. Seuss
Sometimes Writer’s Block is a sign of fear, the fear of writing. A part of the process is holding you back because you fear to do it. When you can identify that fear, you may be able to take action to overcome this fear.
I’ve heard how some writers fear the editing process. I really don’t mind editing. This is the time I take to read my work to see what I’ve written.
So what is fear anyways?
We have internal fear, external fear, and subconscious fear. The inner fear revolves around how we appear in our own eyes. How do we measure up to the values and standards we were taught as a child or the difference between right and wrong. Sometimes we may believe we are always wrong or not good enough, but cause that is what we were taught to think.
External fear comes from external sources, like spiders, snakes, clowns, and the dark. These are things outside our control. Some can mean danger from poisonous bites, Others like the clowns, are from misunderstanding odd behavior.
Subconscious fear is based on not feeling deserving. It is out of your area of expertise so you should naturally fail at it. An example would be your job that you’ve had for most of your life. It has been blue collar, working in a mill. Therefore, you feel you don’t have the intellect to be anything more than a factory worker for the rest of your life.
Any of these fears can stop you dead in your tracks. Even as a writer. It is hard to continue to write when the only one who believes in you is you. That’s where Dr. Seuss tackles writer’s block with his quote about those who matter and those who don’t.
When you can overcome your fears and be who you are and forget about what people may think of what you write about and how you do it, then all the blocks fall away. It is so hard to shut off the internal editor to write what your subconscious wants you to write. External fears shouldn’t matter. Do you fear the fact that the story won’t sell? Should that matter in the end? If you don’t write it, it won’t sell that way either.
So the only way to overcome your writer’s block is to WRITE! Move past those fears and hit the keyboard running. Don’t think about how the story sounds, or what it’s about. If the character is stalking the other character, don’t fret about it. Just make something happen so they too can overcome their own fears and get the story moving. Sometimes an external factor is all it takes to motivate the heroine into action. You just need to keep trying to find that motivation. When it shows its face, you know it and the story will flow onto the page like a river.
Now get out there and Write!
“Happiness, not just a feeling – It’s a state of mind.” – Linda Nelson