writing – Page 36 – Linda Nelson

Recently my son (who is no longer a teen) came to realize how he started to get into trouble when he was in high school. This became apparent after he faced one test after another just recently.

We are not talking the academic tests. No these tests are the life given tests that everyone goes through. It is all part of growing up and learning to become a responsible adult.

His dilemma was – he has had two different vehicles in the past six months and he has had serious maintenance issues with both of these vehicles. He was beginning to believe that he had a dark cloud hanging over his head and he was finding it harder and harder to stay above the drowning waters of his financial obligations.

Hence – this became a life test.

He slipped – but this could be looked at in a different way. He learned something from it. He saw what was happening to himself and said aha – why is this happening to me?

He also knew that if he didn’t act fast he was going to slip even more and wind up doing something bad, something that could get him back in trouble with the law.

We talked about his problem from a reasonable point of view.

We looked at the why and what happened. Then we talked about what his problem was that kept surfacing around the incidents.

It was lack of funds to do as he wanted.

This was when we concluded that maybe Mick Jagger was onto something when he sang, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometime you might find that you get what you need.”

Now his goal in the coming months is to focus on only what he needs and if he wants something he has to determine if it is a want or a need. He will be allowed to buy what he needs but if it is a want then it will have to wait until another time when he has appropriate funds to buy that want.

Who would have thought that a compulsion to buy what we want could lead us into serious trouble or even worse.

Kids, if you are having financial troubles, don’t expect your parents to fix them for you but they will help you learn how you can fix them for yourself by doing it the right way. We are not always the enemy that you think we are. We might be your parents but we do care about you and love you. Give us a chance to help teach you how to help yourself.

If you’re having problems don’t wait any longer, talk to your parents right away.

The Teen Brain is Under Construction: 5 Tips to Help Parents Get Their Teens Through Adolescence (prweb.com)
Why Messages Got Teen in Trouble (huffingtonpost.com)
What’s The Goal Of Learning? (howtolearn.com)

Here’s a great example of how an Author Blog helps gain fans.

I like to scope out blogs of others from time to time. Today I stumbled across Tawna Fenske. I had never heard of her until today. She too is a RWA (Romance Writer of America) member.

It only took a few minutes of my time to read her last two posts and wow… She is a riot. This prompted me to not only follow her posts via email but to also check out her books and add them (all of them) to my to-read pile.

If she writes her blogs the way she does I can only imagine how her books are.

This is what the experts are talking about when they say how important a blog is to a Writers Career. I may never have come across her works before today but just that brief little bit in her blog made me want to read everything she writes, even if it was the first book she ever wrote.

This brings me to the next thing – Growing as a writer

How funny is it to see your own writing skills change over time? It is even funnier to see all the mistakes you made in the beginning of your career. And when you can go back to the beginning and look at it all those mistakes and laugh then you truly know that you have grown as a writer.

Kudos to Tawna, she has acquired me, her newest fan, just from keeping a blog.

ROW 80 Check In:

Two weeks into the year and after finishing up my last book, Road Salt, I have started on the next story. At first I was going to go back to my fantasy series but after my last RWA meeting I’ve been hooked. Now I have to go on with the Wings from Ashes series.

I am happy to report that I have started this next book. I am 3k words into the story and I think I have dug up a pretty good plot for it.

Plots are what I like in my stories, that and lots of conflict. Everyone has at least one nemesis in their life and Karla has one too. That is Maggie.

Maggie will do anything she can to get back at Karla and she does not need much of an excuse. How this effects Karla’s next relationship is to be seen in Along Came Neil.

My goal is to make this story my first official Teen Contemporary Romance.

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