Our dog, Keelaa, has the best personality. We love her so much. So, here, I’d like to share a video featuring her with you.
Busy ~ Busy ~ Busy
Oh my, I looked at my site the other day and realized that time has passed since my last post. I missed a whole month. I don’t know how that happened. It‘s not that the homework has been super challenging, just lots of reading and thinking. Today was the last day of Third Term.
We got this!
Term 3 courses were Human Relations and Social Psychology. They are more related than one would think. They are both about understanding people and why they do the things they do and how best to relate to others, very interesting stuff. I’m glad I read those last few books on my too read pile. They were very helpful with the Human Relations class.
What books were those?
Those five books made it easy for me to breeze through Human Relations. If you haven’t read them, I highly suggest that you check them out.
What is coming up for Term 4?
I am looking at Social Policy and Public Administration for this term. I suspect that both of these classes will be interesting as well.
Graduation Is May 12th!
I will be attending my first graduation since 1983 to receive my Associates of Arts for Business Administration. They even sent me an Honors sash. Woot! I read on the FPU site that I will be getting my honors cords at a ceremony on May 9th.
When I was in High School, I never made honors, so this is a pretty big deal for me. I will attribute all my hard work because of learning about discipline from NaNoWriMo. Studying and keeping up with school work does take a lot of focus and discipline. Procrastination is not a good study habit. I like slow and steady, and then I don’t have to worry about panicking to get the work done on time. Deadlines – learning to meet deadlines on time takes discipline and focus.
What else is happening?
I’m accepted into the MBA program at FPU. I was going to seek my MBA in Human Resources, but the narrow competitive field was brought to my attention so I quickly got in touch with my student advisor and she suggested an additional path of an MBA in Leadership and a Graduate certificate in HR which should prove interesting and do-able.
Last but least…
I am making a transition from the manufacturing floor to administration. Woot! I’m moving up in the world. I have my own desk, a cubicle and a pile of purchase orders to fill and file. I like it even though it is working with numbers. At least I don’t have to do much adding. The software does all the adding for me.
I almost forgot. We have a new addition to the family. Keelaa’s new best friend, a kitten named, Abby. They are best friends for life until Abby sinks her claws into Keelaa’s behind. Then they go to their separate corners for a couple of hours before doing it all over again.
Let’s Chat over a cup of Coffee
It’s been a while since we last met which was way back in November. Since then I have read a couple of books. One book opened a door of learning to appreciate my coworkers and the other about the benefits of Stress. Usually, I prefer to read fiction like that of fantasy, mystery, sci-fiction, or romance but I’ve found these books on business informative.
Christmas and the Holidays have passed.
Phew! They flew by without incident, and everyone was happy with the gifts they got. I did stay up to watch the ball drop.
Keelaa, our Jackshund, is getting a new kitten.
She has been pretty lonely since her much older sister, Julie, passed away back in October. We were all very sad to say goodbye to our trusted furry friend of 16 years, but she was in a lot of pain. Her death was a relief. I hated seeing her struggle to walk. She was at the point where she needed aid when standing up, and many times she would stumble and fall or slip on the linoleum landing with a big huff. I feared how she would fair, come wintertime. With all the ice and snow, her mobility would’ve been limited. She was a trooper right to the very end.
My Milestone Moment!
May of 2016 I began taking college courses at Franklin Pierce University while keeping my day job. Up until then, I had only wished that I had gone to college and believed that this was just a forgotten dream that would never come true. But yea me, it did!
This week, I completed my Associates Degree in Business Associate. I’m moving on with my Bachelors in Science of Integrated Studies. My coursework will consist of a concentrate of Business and Social Service classes, and I did declare my major as well. I want my MBA of Human Resource Management with SHRM certification.
I should have my bachelor’s degree by September of 2019 and my MBA by 2020-21.
Have I stopped writing?
Not really. Though I have not published anything in a while, I do have several stories I am writing, while my primary goal with them is to improve my writing style making the stories much more professionally written. I like having the control over my written works even though they do not fill my bank account with wads of dollars. I don’t write to make money. Writing is my way of expressing myself, and the goal is to write stories that I would want to read. They may never be as good as Game of Thrones or am I selling myself short? I won’t know until I publish them and you as a reader give me feedback on how much my writing has changed in the past ten to twelve years.
Till we meet again – bottoms up!
Valued Blog Post of the Week!
I’m giving myself a writing challenge for the next three months. I will pick a personal value as part of a writing exercise as an experiment to see how the topic affects my daily stress level.
My stress level is still well in check even though I have missed my valued Blog Post of the week. I guess you could say I was having trouble picking my next value.
Picking a personal value
“Pick one value and write about it for ten minutes. Describe why this value is important to you. Write how you express this value in your everyday life, including what you did today.”
We all have specific values that have become a part of our personality over the years. Those values are not something that I have given much thought to until recently. This post is late. The holidays are long gone, and I don’t have much of an excuse except that of being indecisive until now. I was going to go with Positive Influence, but then I said no, that’s not it. Then I thought Personal Growth and decided that I’m not ready to cover that topic.
So, I’m choosing Fairness instead.
Fairness is a noun and means impartial and just treatment or behavior without Favoritism or Discrimination. Synonyms for fairness are:
candor – civility – decency – decorum – equity – honesty – humanity – impartiality – integrity – legitimacy – moderation – propriety – rationality – righteousness – suitability – tolerance – truth – veracity – charitableness – charity – consideration – courtesy – disinterestedness – due – duty – exactitude – fair-mindedness – goodness – honor – justness – reasonableness – right – rightfulness – rightness – seemliness – uprightness – equitableness – fair shake – give and take – good faith – open-mindedness – square deal
Oh, I just finished a course on Race and Ethnics this previous semester. Fascinating topic. Many don’t realize how racial or discriminating they are until they begin to dig deep. But what does this have to do with my value topic of fairness?
Fairness is a tremendous value even in the workplace.
Favoritism is the opposite of fairness – the antonym.
Favoritism = Discrimination
Favoritism comes in several forms and can be considered discrimination in the workplace and can have devastating effects on the company culture.
If one employee favored over another for any single reason, then someone is being discriminated against which results in loss of trust, motivation, morale, lost productivity, and leads to resentment and causes disincentives for overall productivity. It is plain and simple, bad management practice. “When employees see that only a few receive benefits for being in the manager’s good graces instead of from doing a great job, then there is little reason for hard work.” Favoritism can also not only negatively impact the company culture it can hurt the bottom line.
Favoritism can manifest in unfair bonus or promotions and which is evident when a manager looks the other way when an employee is not following the dress code or leaves an hour or two early or comes in late without making up their time. “At extremes, favoritism can lead to lawsuits, which in addition to having severe financial consequences, may have a lasting effect on a company’s hiring efforts and reputation in both the specific industry and the public eye.”
Is favoritism illegal?
That depends on the type of favoritism such as discrimination.
What is discrimination?
“Discrimination happens when employers make job decisions based on employees’ protected characteristics — traits that federal, state, or local governments have decided should not be the basis of employment actions. Under federal law, for example, it’s illegal for employers not to hire someone because of his race, to refuse to promote women, to relegate employees with disabilities to low-paying positions, or to lay off employees based on age.”
But if the decision based on similar beliefs, hobbies, or likes then this is not considered discrimination.
Sexual Harassment Favoritism is illegal.
(Topic to cover later.)
Favoritism as Retaliation
“If a manager’s decisions are intended to punish employees who have complained of illegal behavior (such as discrimination, harassment, or unsafe working conditions), that could be unlawful retaliation.”
I know that fairness is difficult. We all want everyone to like us. But if you as a leader have earned employee trust, then what is there not to like?
- Favoritism in the Workplace: Is it illegal? Accessed January 19, 2018. https://www.employmentlawfirms.com/resources/employment/discrimination/laws-preventing-favoritism-in-the-workplace.
FLEISCHMAN, EDWARD. 2015. The dangers of playing favorites at work. August 4. Accessed January 19, 2018. http://fortune.com/2015/08/04/favoritism-careers-leadership/.
McGonigal, Kelly. 2016. The Upside of Stress. New York: Avery.
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I just finished up a book that was bubbling to the top of my to-read pile as the Holidays passed by me at warp speed. The subject of stress does occupy many minds during the winter months and the up and coming income tax season. But as I began reading the following book I found that this book is a welcome read for any time of the year since stress comes in many forms.
Title: The Upside of Stress
By Kelly McGonigal, PhD
File Size: 1321 KB
Print Length: 301 pages
Publisher: Avery (May 5, 2015)
Publication Date: May 5, 2015
Sold by: Penguin Group (USA) LLC
For most of our lives, we have been told that stress is harmful to our health. What if someone were able to prove this to be otherwise? How would you feel if you found that there are more health benefits to stress then health risks? All it takes is a change in your mindset.
Kelly McGonigal argues in her book The Upside of Stress that psychologists have been telling people for years that stress is bad for you but she has discovered through research that this is not indeed the case. With her research, she can prove the benefits of stress can outweigh the harmful effects of stress that revolves around changing the mindset about stress. If one can believe that stress is beneficial than the coping mechanisms associated with stressful events can cause personal growth which will improve the health of that individual.
“Mindsets are beliefs that shape your reality, including objective physical reactions (like the strength of my arm as Crum pushed on it), and even long-term health, happiness, and success. More important, the new field of mindset science shows that a single brief intervention, designed to change how you think about something, can improve your health, happiness, and success, even years into the future.” (McGonigal 2016, 4)
Kelly McGonigal, Phd., is a lecturer and psychologist at Stanford University and an expert on mind-body relationship. She is a senior teacher/consultant at Stanford for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education and also teaches for the School of Medicine’s Health Improvement Program. Her work validates the claims of psychological science to personal health and happiness, as well as organizational success and social change.
I understand what McGonigal means when she makes the statement, “When you face difficulties head-on, instead of trying to avoid or deny them, you build your resources for dealing with stressful experiences.” (McGonigal 2016, 18) We all face difficulties over the course of our lives. It is not a matter of what those challenges are but how we handle them that matters most in life. If we don’t manage them well, then we tend to repeat those problems until we can overcome them.
This book explains the reasoning behind why McGonigal believes that stress can be healthy for personal growth. Her research she shares verify why the probability this is correct and she describes this well in the book.
I did not find anything in this book that I would disagree with which is why I have rated this book with five stars.
I highly recommend everyone to read this book, and hopefully, it will change your outlook on stress and help you handle those dreadful times with personal growth and resilience.
McGonigal, Kelly. The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It (p. 4). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.
McGonigal, Kelly. The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It (p. 18). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.
McGonigal, Kelly. The Upside of Stress. New York: Avery, 2016.