Thinking about trusting others before we learn to trust ourselves can lead to serious relationship problems like resentment and criticism.
I had a problem before, thinking that people were to be trusted. I learned that it "starts with me". In any relationship I must first trust myself before I can even think about trusting the other person. Boundaries are extremely handy. They can be put up or taken down, we choose when to use them. When we put more faith in others we tend to give up our own faith that we have for ourselves. Staying focused on ourselves can be difficult at times but keeping things "Simple" helps a lot. Constant checks on ourselves of how we are and what we are doing can change the behaviors of others. why? They then have to become more responsible for themselves because we are now too busy to take care of them, what they are doing and what they have done. Their behavior then becomes important to them. why?
They are co-dependant too. The more independent we become the more it bothers them about what we think about them when we are not thinking about them but about ourselves
Keep coming back it works if you work it!!
Linda Nelson 