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Call, Text, or Tweet – Today’s messages Forgotten


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Emails, text messages, notifications, tweets, voice mail, it goes on and on, and the messages pile up unopened. Anyway, who uses voice mail these days, every message is a text instead. I don’t think we have used our answering machine in years. Many people no longer use landline phones. They have become attached to their smartphones.

The last time we used an answering machine, a local politician running for Governor left a half-hour message on the machine, taking up all the space. No one else could leave a message even if there were an emergency.

Me? I don’t like phones in general. No offense meant. It’s been years since I would spend endless hours talking to a friend on the phone. Yes, there was a time when I would be on the phone with a friend for more than an hour. All my friends had to be local numbers, or I wasn’t allowed to call them. Those long distance charges from years ago could tick off an unsuspecting parent.

People will text each other for the silliest of reasons. Did you watch Survivor last night? No, did you really need to text me to ask if I watched the show?

If you were following a recipe and couldn’t read the ingredient I had written on that paper, well that is a different situation. I wouldn’t mind responding.

Sometimes I do respond to Facebook and Twitter posts. Facebook can be iffy at times. Words are not always clearly written, and messages can be misunderstood and twisted in the most bizarre ways. Auto correct on a Smart Phone doesn’t help matters either. Talk about twisting your words and making matters worse.

The older generation does not understand the new manners of texting, posting and tweeting. Many times they will add salutations at the end of the post or message not knowing that this is usually done with an email or letter. When we receive posts on our Facebook boards, the person posting is announced by their profile name and picture. There is no need to say love your Grandma at the end of the post or instant message. We know who you are.

The younger generation needs to learn some manners when it comes to answering their older peers and family members. Yes, Grandma is expecting a thank you for the gift or birthday card she sent to you last week. This isn’t just because she has been waiting for you to show respect and gratitude for the thought, it is to notify them that you did receive the item in the mail. If you don’t tell them, then they will worry, believing that it became lost somehow or maybe even stolen. Think about common courtesy and follow through on your end and everyone will be happy.

There have been times where I messaged my daughter in the past, and she misinterpreted what I was trying to say. A time when the instant message was the new form of communicating. Things can be said in a message that can so easily be misunderstood or taken the wrong way because we can’t see the facial expressions behind the message. There is no telling if the message was said as a form of sarcasm or was supposed to be a personal joke. What did they mean by that remark?

Text messages and instant messages have to be carefully worded to be confident the receiver is not taking what is being said the wrong way. A great rule of thumb is if you can’t be clear in the written message you would be best to either phone the person and speak to them or better yet, talk to them in person.

I would prefer a visit from a friend or family member any day over a text message.

How about you?

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Homemade Egg Nog

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The only downside was that I used an electric hand mixer. A stand mixer would work best to free up your other hand to pour the milk mixture and mix the eggs in at the same time.


Homemade Egg Nog

Serving Size: Serves 8


  • 3 cups of milk
  • 1 cup of heavy cream
  • 3 cinnamon sticks
  • 2 teaspoons vanilla
  • 1 teaspoon nutmeg
  • 5 eggs, seperated
  • 2/3 cup sugar
  • 3/4 cup dark rum or bourbon - optional - leave out for non-alcoholic beverage


  1. In a saucepan, combine milk, cream, cinnamon sticks, and nutmeg. Bring to a boil over medium heat, stirring constantly. Remove from heat and add vanilla. Cover and allow to steep.
  2. In a large bowl, beat egg yolks and sugar until combined and forms thick frothy ribbons when the whisk is lifted. I used an electric hand mixer. A stand mixer would be best. Slowly mix in the milk mixture and continue to mix unit the mixture is combined and smooth. Add bourbon or rum, and stir. Chill overnight or for up to 3 days.
  3. Before serving, beat the egg whites in a large bowl or stand mixer unit soft peaks form. Gently fold into eggnog until combined. Serve and garnish with extra nutmeg.
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Corn Casserole

I found this recipe several years ago on the Food Network. Since then, it has become a favorite of my family. It is so easy to make, being on the same idea as a dump recipe. I’m posting it here because, this is where I like to put my favorite recipes and now that I’ve been getting requests from friends for this recipe, posting it here will make it easier to find. My recipe paper file has become a bit worn over the years.

Enjoy! We will be serving this dish at our Thanksgiving meal as a newly added tradition.

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Corn Casserole


  • 1 can whole corn, drained
  • 1 can cream style corn
  • 1 (8 oz.) package corn muffin mix (preferably Jiffy)
  • 1 cup sour cream
  • 1/2 cup (1 stick) butter, melted
  • 1 to 1 1/2 cups shredded Cheddar


  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.
  2. In a large bowl, stir together the cans of corn, corn muffin mix, sour cream, and melted butter. Pour into a greased 9 by 13 - inch casserole dish. Bake for 45 minutes, or until golden brown. Remove from oven and top with Cheddar. Return to oven for 5 to 10 minutes, or until cheese is melted. Let stand for about 5 minutes and serve warm.
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NaNoWriMo 2016 – Juggling Work, School, and Writing


It’s November. The month of cooking turkeys and baking pies and crazy holiday shopping. Then there is NaNoWriMo. That crazy writing challenge where a person sits down to write 1,667 words a day to complete a 50,000-word novel in 30 days.

Do you NaNo?

I have taken part in NaNoWriMo since 2010. NaNoWriMo stands for National Novel Writing Month. Thousands upon thousands or maybe millions upon millions of writers sit down to write a novel in hopes of winning the writing challenge. The final prize being a manuscript that can be edited and maybe a few sponsor prizes as well along with blog badges and a printable certificate saying you won NaNoWriMo. That’s it.

Isn’t it enough?

Just being able to finish a novel in 30 days is a top prize. Once you give it a try, you might have more appreciation for your favorite author who pumps out story after story. Writing a novel is not as easy as one might think.

I completed NaNo last year but never published the book. That story will need a major reconstruction before I even think about editing it. Since then I have started four stories and haven’t finished a one. They seem to fall apart in the middle.

This year I’m trying to write by using scenes and sequels. A process that may help me plot the story. Right now I can’t decide how my lovers meet. Well, I do know how they become acquainted with each other. The date line will stay. The problem I have is how to get the two of them together by the end of the story. They can’t just say let’s date and get married.

In the meantime, I will continue to use the writing sprints that is featured by NaNoWriMo on Twitter and YouTube. I like the videos the best. I can stream them to my television by using my Roku and watch episode after episode while focusing on writing.

My writing group is also participating in word wars with other writing groups. I hope to increase my word count in the coming week. If only I can write 5k words a day. I’m way behind. Between work and school, there isn’t much time left to write. Is sleep really overrated?

Wish me luck  🙂

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Facebook Privacy vs. Employee Venting

When an Employee should keep their mouth shut or stay off Facebook

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There are those on Facebook who will post just about anything and wonder why it comes back to bite them in their ass. The ones who do this all the time appear to forget that their posts are visible to the world. Nothing is private when it comes to the internet. When are they going to learn this? If you want a private site – don’t friend anyone. That’s private.

I’ve seen those who will get their job back and turn around a few days later and begin bashing their employer. Get real. Do they really think that none of this is going to get back to any of their bosses?

They claim free speech. Would the individual like it if employers began posting on Facebook about how slow of a worker they were or how incompetent they were in their job? I think not. But these people will post about their employer regardless and wonder why they are terminated.

Maybe businesses should claim free speech and make similar posts. Let’s see how these people fare in the job market afterward when all their crap is out there for future employers to see.

Yup, so and so, showed up late again for work. They never work a full week and wonder why they never make their deadline. They’ve never finished on time. How many days off can they take in a month? Is it possible to be out 8 days a week?

My favorite – If they worked any slower, they’d be going backward.

I could come up with many more things an employer could say about their employees.

How about, if your hands worked as fast as your mouth, you’d get your work done on time.

People need to think before they post their vents on social media. Every finger point at your boss will lead to ten pointing back at your faults of imperfect job performance.

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Bridging a Gap in Employment Skills

Over six month ago I faced a life-changing event called unemployment. It was a terrible dilemma to face after working for the same company for almost ten years. The longer a person is employed by a corporation, the more they begin to focus on the little benefits they can take advantage of that is there for those who are dedicated to their work. But when that moment comes along and yanks those sought after benefits away, you begin to ask why?

Why did I stay so long if this was going to happen to me?

Did I just waste ten years of my life for nothing?

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I hate being pessimistic. I’m optimistic. So I took full advantage of the unemployment services and paid attention to those we were to report to once a month for that monthly meeting. When the employment counselor said that I had become unemployable, that hurt. I had all that experience and nothing to show for any of it. Were all those core competencies I had learned been in vain?

Apparently, I had obtained more skills than I knew. This I learned when I went back to school and was questioned what I wanted to do with my life. Here I am, six months later reflecting on what I have learned from my Career and Image class.

All those years, as George Martin quoted to Jon Snow, “You know nothing,” I learned that I know more than I thought I knew. All those things I took for granted as skills that everyone must have, but don’t.

My unemployment experience has made me make the decision to bridge the gap in my employment skills. This gap wasn’t as wide as I once thought it to be. My journey in education is exciting, more so than I had ever dreamed of it to be. I may not have the time I once had to do all the things I want to do, but this will change. I only need to give up about six years of my life to dedication to my education.

In the meantime, I can’t cut off my writing career. There appears to be a bridge between having enough time and no time. How odd.

The more time I had on my hands, the less I wanted to write. The less time available, the more I am dying to put words to white screen.

Journeys are nothing more than wandering paths of crossing rivers, streams, and mountaintops. I recently crossed that bridge and now I hope my path will lead me to the peak of Mount Works of Satisfaction. It will be a long hike to the top, but I know I can make it all the way with determination and discipline, and any encouragement I find along the way.

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What’s Wrong With Now?

Everyone likes now, right?

Instant gratification. We all want this, every

one of us. Win the lottery and instantly become a millionaire. Everyone’s dream.

What is wrong with now?

When I was growing up, we worked for what we wanted. We waited and saved our pennies until we could afford that car or shoes we dreamed of buying. Today’s generation is different. They must fear missing an opportunity whatever that might be.

They have to party hard, now, or miss the opportunity to make themselves look foolish and feel sick in the morning.

They have to get high now or miss their chance to feel wasted. – Waste of money, not time.

They need to spend all their money as soon as they have it in hand.

When they were told to live in the now, I don’t think this is what was meant.

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Living in the now means to stop and live in the now. What?

Stop what you are doing right now and listen very closely. Identify every sound around you. Focus on that sound. This could be the wind blowing outside, the rain hitting your tin roof, a dog barking off in the distance, or songbirds tweeting at your birdfeeder.

When you do this, it’s a form of living in the now. You will notice negative emotions and anxiety are calmed. Worries are lessened. The longer you stay in the now, the better you will feel. This is sort of like giving your emotions a reboot like you would if you were having trouble with your computer and restarted it to solve the problem.

Living in the now is not what the millenniums think it means. They should have been told to stop and meditate in the now to find peace and comfort from their daily lives.


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Birth Control Pills Could Be Sold Without a Prescription: A Possibility?

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There is talk going around that there may come a time when contraceptive birth control pills will be purchased over the counter without a prescription. What would this mean to teenage girls?

A teenager is more likely to become pregnant than a forty-year-old woman. The life of a teenager is not as innocent as many would like to think. This is a time for exploring their feelings and their bodies. A parent can’t prevent everything. If you found out your daughter was having a sexual relation with her boyfriend, what could you do to stop it? Punish her? Is that really the correct answer?

Okay, she’s been punished, but she is in love. Many married couples who have lived happily married for over thirty years were high school sweethearts. Nine times out of ten, that punishment is only going to make her want to continue doing what she was doing, or they will break up. The breakup could be the ruin of her life and his, especially if they were meant to be together.

Parents try to control too much of their child’s lives. They will never learn about life consequences if they are constantly told do this and don’t do that. These kids need to learn to make their decisions in their life to become stronger individuals. What will your teen do if you die tomorrow and they never learned to live their life? This would be a psychological dilemma.

There is no reason to believe that by taking birth control pills a teenager will be more likely to increase their sexual activity. Teens will do what teens want to do. Sometimes they will do it out of spite of their parents’ wishes. If they were to contract a sexual disease, they would get one with or without birth control pills. Condoms are already sold over the counter without prescriptions, but they don’t always protect against pregnancy. Accidents do happen.

The worst thing to happen to a sexually active teen is pregnancy, not a sexually contracted disease. Pregnancy is one of the top reasons why teens drop out of high school. There is nothing worse than dropping out in the last year of school. Most will never return to get their diploma. The GED test is harder than returning to school. There are questions on the exam that most high school graduates can’t answer.

Changing the rule about needing a prescription to get birth control might lower the rate of unwanted births. Most of the women and teens with unwanted births are living above poverty. The health care costs have become too steep since Obama Care was created. Nowadays, the deductible that many people have to pay before seeing a doctor for a checkup is out of their reach. $6,000 is too steep for a person who makes only $18,000 a year. That is one-third of their annual pay. Because of the high deductibles, there may be more unexpected births to older women in the coming years because they can’t afford to see their doctor for that annual checkup to renew their prescriptions for birth control pills.

To think, society is worried about the teen births?

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Recalling Past times – Family Holiday Dinners

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If I were to think back in time to a crucial memory, I would have to reflect on the annual family dinners during the holidays. My mother’s side of the family was not only large, but it was also a close-knit family that was held together with tape and glue by my late Aunt Barbra. She was the oldest and second in charge to my Grandmother, out of a family of ten children consisting of six boys and four girls. Grandma was a wise soul who managed to raise her children mostly on her own. Grandpa died when my mother was eight years old from the effects of mustard gas he had been subject to during WWII.

Mom told me many times of her escapades of growing up. How Grandma used to catch the chickens in the backyard and put them on the chopping block for Sunday dinner. One time she forgot to tie the legs and had red-stained sheets on her clothes line. Or of another occasion, when her father was still alive, he went to cook the turkey for Thanksgiving dinner and learned that he didn’t remove all its inners before cooking it. That year, all the guests were fed Liver for dinner because the turkey was ruined.

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When I was born, part of the family began coming to my parents’ home for holiday dinners. We lived in a small mobile home. I don’t remember much of this time period as I reflect back in time. I have no idea how everyone was able to fit into that small trailer for dinner. By the time I was entering third grade, my parents had upgraded their mobile home to a larger version. We could now fit about twenty people at one time in our home. A bit crowded, but we fit. Aunt Barbra had taken over the holiday dinners by then. We would travel across the state to spend time at her house instead, usually spending the night.

Thinking back to that time, I see that Aunt Barbra was very successful for a woman during the 1970’s. She worked for Ma Bell back then. Owned her own home, owned her own car and managed her own household up until her death, remaining an old maid. That’s right, she never married. I don’t know if she’d ever had a significant other in her life. She must have had someone, I’m sure. Some of my Uncles had lived with her for a few years before they went off to marry and start their own families.

Those holiday dinners were good times, fun times. Seeing cousins and Aunts and Uncles that we only would see once a year. Family meals were taken for granted. When Aunt Barbra passed away, all the glue and tape let go and the family dinners disappeared.

My mother tried for years to hold on to that family dinner tradition, but it wasn’t the same, and slowly became an obsession that turned into weekly Sunday dinners. Time has passed, the family dinner tradition is only a memory of the past. My own children never had the taste of the family holiday dinner I had when I was growing up. Our Holidays consist of the annual Turkey and Christmas ham that is eaten by four family members and two dogs.

Holiday dinners are not what they used to be, but they are memories I will relish forever.